You have to be your own ...

You have to be your own person. You can\'t let people\'s opinions determine how you think about yourself. There\'s a difference between identity and self-identity.
You have to be your own person. You can't let people's opinions determine how you think about yourself. There's a difference between identity and self-identity.

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I am like a falling star who has finally found her place next to another in a lovely constellation, where we will sparkle in the heavens forever.
But later that day, the streets of Kweilin were strewn with newspapers reporting great Kuomintang victories, and on top of these papers, like fresh fish from a butcher, lay rows of people - men, women and children who had never lost hope, but had lost their lives instead.
Whenever I'm with my mother, I feel as though I have to spend the whole time avoiding land mines.
Mothers have the huge influence, and I feel like they're always teaching us from the day we're born what to be afraid of, what to be cautious of, what we should like and what we should look like. Then we spend half of our life trying to be not like them, and then we reach another part of our lives where we see these things we can't get rid of.
My mother didn't teach me lessons about being Chinese as strongly as she did the notion of who I was as a female.