When the satisfaction or the ...

When the satisfaction or the security of another person becomes as significant to one as one's own satisfaction or security, then the state of love exists. Under no other circumstances is a state of love present, regardless of the popular usage of the term.
 Harry Stack Sullivan

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It is easier to act yourself into a new way of feeling than to feel yourself into a new way of acting.
 Harry Stack Sullivan
Personality is the sum total of one's experiences.
 Harry Stack Sullivan