The number one goal in ...

The number one goal in resolving a conflict is to make sure both sides maintain their self-esteem. Resolving conflict is rarely about who is right. It is about acknowledgment and appreciation of differences.
 Thomas Crum

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Being willing to change allows you to move from a point of view to a viewing point - a higher, more expansive place, from which you can see both sides.
 Thomas Crum