It's a withdrawal of love, ...

It's a withdrawal of love, coupled with rejection. That combination is hard to accept, and often triggers feelings of not good enough, failure at relationship, insecurity, lack of trust and other feelings.
 John Robert Seeley

Quotes from the same author

No virtue is safe that is not enthusiastic.
 John Robert Seeley
We seem, as it were, to have conquered and peopled half the world in a fit of absence of mind.
 John Robert Seeley
No man saw the building of the New Jerusalem, the workmen crowded together, the unfinished walls and unpaved streets; no man heard the clink of trowel and pickaxe; it descended out of heaven from God.
 John Robert Seeley